“By learning how to trust herself she learned how to trust life.”

Imagine this…

  • Being in charge of your mental and emotional well-being, simply living a life of total alignment with your dreams and purpose.

  • Feeling good and safe in the present moment with no pressure to be somewhere else.

  • A sense of being grounded in your safety, assured to take up space in this world

  • Having an unwavering self-trust and confidence that allows you to lead yourself and others from the heart.

  • Joy and freedom of expressing yourself and attracting relationships and connections who accept you as you are.

  • Being centred in your sense of worth. Having ultimate authority to validate your ideas and opinions, when enough is enough, what is of value, and what is right for you.

  • Feeling playful, rested, and relaxed, not worrying, with better sleep and clear mind.

  • Reclaiming your autonomy and freedom to act according to your values, desires and convictions, rather than conforming to others' standards.

  • Being in love with your total humanity beyond the labels, roles, comparisons and expectations. Ability to lead a slower more nourishing life.

  • Feeling supported by life.

  • Relief from not being ashamed of who you are or having to pretend to be someone that you’re not.

  • Creating life from a clear sense of purpose and excitement without being distracted by external factors, self-pressure, doubt or self-comparison.

  • Having the confidence to say “NO” without explaining and “YES” without guilt.

...all without the constant tension, self-judgment, needing to prove yourself, and the nights spent on overthinking scenarios?

Do any of these sound familiar?

  • Your intense mind goes on non-stop sucking all the energy driving you to anxiety. You feel frustrated and overwhelmed by this constant overthinking and an emotional roller-coaster.

  • You feel like you’re “not enough” or “too much”. Perhaps you often compare yourself with others and change your mind all the time. The inner critical voices create inner conflicts of guilt, shame and confusion.

  • Driven by inner pressure, doubt, and judgement you constantly “should” yourself or push until exhaustion.

  • You’re creative, highly sensitive, gifted, caring, deep, complex, visionary, imaginative, idealistic, lonely, and self-contradictory.

  • To avoid the discomfort, you avoid engaging in things you know are beneficial for you or those you used to enjoy doing.

  • You often feel exhausted, worried, and perhaps have trouble sleeping.

  • You have been in codependent relationship(s).

  • You struggled with cycles of burnout, procrastination, and perfectionism.

  • Maybe you never felt like you belonged. You tried to fit in but have deeply known that you’re “different from others” by your values, standards, perceptions, ideals, look, goals and behaviours. The disconnect makes you feel misunderstood or lonely.

  • You may have been labelled: neurodivergent, ADHD, CPTSD, rebellious, different, disobedient, or generally a misfit.

  • You’ve consumed all kinds of self-help books and tried many things but you’re still unable to feel good and balanced most of the time. You’re just holding it all together in fear that things will fall apart.

  • You feel deep in your gut that you have so much untapped potential but something’s holding you back.

  • You’re curious and/or have trouble committing to anything while chasing the next interesting thing.

  • Perhaps since childhood you found refuge in science, art, design, philosophy, and ideas.

  • You may be unfulfilled, underapreciated, insecure, or resentful in your work or relationships. You may be questioning your choices, or feeling stuck doing things that don’t feel right. You’re likely overcompensating: by overthinking, overworking, over-giving, fixing, taking on more responsibility and adding more to your list of responsibilities.

  • You can sense what others feel, think, want or need before they do know. Deep empathy makes you overwhelmed, anticipate, apologise and stay small in fear of causing problems or discomfort.

  • You see how many things need improvement in the world and you can’t bear injustice, inequality, or violence. You may resort to avoidance and seclusion because there’s so much wrong out there. You’re a change-maker at heart but easily check-out into daydreaming and fantasy.

If any 3 of these resonate it is because your mind+body and purpose are out of sync; it’s very likely exhausting, mentally and physically. You may feel like you’re spinning your wheels. Maybe even health issues started showing up… At the same time, maybe your relationships, passions, and work-life started to suffer because of all the negative self-talk and the lack of self-trust in knowing what to do next. This way of living is not sustainable and you know it.

But it DOES NOT have to be this way!

If you answered YES to 3 or more of the above, then this process was MADE FOR YOU.

From my clients

  • I realised I needed to let go, or forgive, and it has been the most powerful lesson in my life – I now believe it’s one of the reasons I came here: to learn to forgive. I am still learning more lessons around it now and it is setting me free – also forgiving myself. I also think that encouragement and inspiration I received in terms of putting aside my wounded masculine and giving space to the divine feminine in my life has been transformational.

    Sarah N.

  • "I'm doing so great! I have set up my home organising / decluttering business again and have got 2 clients already! It gives me so much joy to help others. I can't believe I'm actually working again and I don't feel that my mental health is holding me back. I really feel that I'm out of the depression that I was in since August last year. ”

    Fiona King

  • “Really I am convinced that I made it so far because of you! Your words helped me so much and your recommendations were a blessing for me and I am still thankful for your help!!!”

    Denise K.

  • “I have been waking up more rested and with more energy! Its been a few years since I've slept so well. Feeling the integration of your teachings and practices going to deeper levels. I get so many wonderful insights when I meditate. That has NEVER happened before, I was so antsy and distracted before.”

    Jody Gibbs

  • "Gosia, I couldn't have done it without your gentle and amazing guidance. So many steps were illuminated to me in the dark. Very grateful for these massive shifts & feeling incredibly positive that 2021 will be the year I fully rekindle the bond with my body."

    Irena K.

  • “I’m slowing down and keeping things simple. Not stressing about "am I doing too much or too little?" I'm just letting everything flow. Sleeping better and have much more energy! Bringing more joy in...Also saying NO to someone that I would usually say YES to, because I wouldn't want to hurt there feelings.”

    Jo Jo

  • "My big win was to become less overwhelmed and less disempowered by what I experienced in the past. This tied in with feeling connected to things–feeling seen and connected to people around me."

    Sarah from London

  • “I really feel like I'm starting to notice significant changes in myself. I'm finding that each small shift or success is building on the next to give me more and more belief that the process is really working for me. I'm actually starting to believe that I can get fully well! I've done several other programs and coaching before, but Gosia's is by far the most comprehensive and the most effective.”

    Lucy Springall

  • “Hope and belief are so important. I can tell you from experience that Gosia Poraj will not give up on you! She believes that humans have an innate ability to heal. Even after years or many dismissive people. I was starting to lose that belief. Thank you for restoring my faith in healing just in time so helpful working with you!!”

    Katherine Radakovich

  • I was able to go through a really big breakthrough that helped me heal, emotionally and physically. I was also able to see my energy change during those three months. I felt changed.

    Pamela D.

Your life is not determined by your past but by what you do for your future. 

Are you ready to love yourself and to love your life?

Hi! I'm Gosia Poraj, a mindbody expert, speaker, artist, and a student of life.

I know how it feels to be weighed down by all the shoulds. The inner pressure to be better and to do better drove me into sickness, anxiety, and many poor life choices. I was conflicted between rebellion of wanting to do things “my way” and depending on others’ approval. As a highly sensitive and driven, I felt so lost chasing my goals, and trying to fit into the world but deep inside I was craving a deeper sense of truth. Naturally, no matter what I did externally—it was never enough, nor fulfilling.

I was a queen of overthinking, and figuring out but…

I had to learn a painful lesson:

“YOU CAN TRY TO THINK YOUR WAY OUT… BUT UNLESS THE MIND AND THE BODY ARE IN SYNC WITH YOUR EMOTIONS AND THE PURPOSE, THERE WILL BE NO LASTING IMPROVEMENT.”

I started my "rewiring" experiments out of necessity to heal my diseased body after several years of struggle. For the first time I decided to follow my intuition and I went all in to design my healing.

Then everything started shifting super fast; my health, overthinking, mindset, and emotional chaos… all healed in just a matter of several months. I connected to a deep stillness that was wise and healing. It felt like the dust of three decades of my life settled and for the first time, I could see everything clearly. This incredible shift set me off to a decade of research and trials to understand underlying mechanisms making a balanced, confident woman thrive. I understood how the solutions to our problems are counterintuitive, but simpler than we make them to be.

The Embodied Reintegration was born.

The critical shift:

What if I told you that your paralysing anxiety, inner conflict, pain, and loneliness are healthy stages for those who have a “higher capacity” for development?

What if I told you that these painful experiences, when approached correctly, hold the keys to reaching much higher states of your evolution, freedom, joy and authenticity?

What if you knew exactly what it takes to get to the next level and release these inner tensions?

The industry of self-help is oversaturated with information, offering many methods to “fit all”, which is overwhelmingly confusing and often harmful for those who process reality in a different ways than typical. There is too much information that ignores the root of your problems. 

For most of the sensitive, creative and deep thinking people I chat with, dealing with their emotional and mental states feels like playing a frantic whack-a-mole game, where they’re constantly putting out fires and seeing little to no comfort or confidence in what they’re doing or embodying who they desire to be. Many of them feel constantly set-back because their inner experience and self-doubt. Let me share with you what I discovered over the last decade.

In other words,

WHAT MAKES THE EMBODIED REINTEGRATION DIFFERENT?

Self-improvement industry standard vs Embodied Reintegration approach:

  • Cognitive understanding helps a little with processing the underlying patterns, healing the root cause and reclaiming your truth. But as Einstein said, “We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them”.

    You can find amazing free self-help courses online. You can buy a brilliant book for five dollars on anything you would want to be, do or have. And yet, it’s still hard to change the things that hold you back.

    Why?

    Because we best learn through lived experiences involving both the mind and the body.

    Embodied Reintegration:

    About 10 years ago I realised that people have so much wisdom and intuition they are unaware of. But thinking often blocks utilising these faculties. In my coaching, I knew I had to create an experiential basis to facilitate changes my clients wanted to experience.

    I’ve been achieving this thanks to the mindbody approach of guiding women into discovering and expanding their realms of perception so that they discover what’s possible for them. It is crucial to include both the mind and the body and emotions any transformation you’re seeking

    Sensitive, visionary, and creative women already overthink and no matter how hard you try, it’s going to be hard to rationalise your way out of deep-seated patterns resulting from life-long habits and perceptions. You will need your thinking but a different kind than you’re used to.

    Most importantly, the way I designed my process shows women the inner power and confidence they possess rather than making them feel insecure for not knowing enough. The entire goal is to guide their curiosity towards their inner wisdom so that they don’t have to rely on information, and my method supports this purpose.

  • Self-improvement industry is notorious for focusing on the unwanted behaviour and outcomes and pathologizing them, adding to a sense of shame.

    We’re taught tricks and hacks to calm anxiety, change habits, be more productive, fix the negativity and so on. Arrogant humans want to control things that are uncomfortable.

    But you probably realised these advice don’t bring lasting improvements. After all, we do everything for a reason.

    Embodied Reintegration:

    Over the course of the months together you will learn to explore the root causes of the unwanted patterns and focus on the reasons why we do what we do or avoid doing what we want. This approach stops self-blame, shame and helps uproot and heal the issues with respect and grace. It’s a process based on untangling the mind-body associations created a long time ago.

  • The majority of the self-help and psychology industry seen today is based on the ideas of white men wanting to create a homogenised society while telling us what’s normal. Ironically most of the audience is women and many of them are highly sensitive or neurodivergent in other ways. Consequently, mentors of both genders in the industry tend to repeat the main ideas that ignore the biopsychosocial reality or the current needs of these women which further contributes to stigma.

    Women are already very pressured by having to adapt to a patriarchal capitalist world and adopt discordant ways of doing and being. Likewise, in the self-help field, women are being advised without considering their challenges and how their unique psyches developed in this society.

    This makes most programs or even therapy superficial, generic, narrow, and even harmful when promoting approaches that further suppress our development and or work against our best interest.

    Embodied Reintegration:

    An intimate understanding of how culture and society shaped your mindbody and the spirit is key to understanding your gifts and the pathway to healing from the limitations that were imposed. The same goes for rebalancing and decolonizing attributes, such as sensitivity, giftedness, compassion and creativity out of the outdated frames of use. These are meant to serve growth and well-being, not servitude.

    I run ER because it’s virtually impossible to heal a sensitive woman’s psyche without acknowledging the collective wounds that led to the repression of their natural abilities, resources, and gifts.

    Through subtle changes, you will be able to claim more freedom and resources without the necessity for revolution.

    In the first years of my practice, I helped women heal their minds and bodies from chronic damage caused by stress, neglect, inequality, codependence, fear, exhaustion and judgement. Unless you change how you view yourself in this world any changes you make will be superficial.

“I took that leap of faith and I tell you it was the best step I've ever taken. It changed my life and it's been transformational! Honestly!”

—Jody Gibbs

Embodied Reintegration will guide you to:

Get into here and now, where you’re safe to be you as you are & to slow down.

Turn your overwhelm, overthinking and anxiety into embodied peace and confidence.

Inner freedom from having to be a certain way instead of proving and explaining.

Understand your intuition and befriend your body.

Transform the sense of unworthiness & shame into that of self-love.

Move from doubt to feeling grounded and trusting yourself.

Connect with the support of life to give you the voice & courage to follow your truth.

Stop giving yourself away. Instead, you will start living your own adventure that fulfils your needs, values, and desires. 

As you fill yourself from within, you will get plenty of energy and enthusiasm to create and give from overflow as you share your gifts.

Learn to resolve your inner battles and gain all the energy you've been spending on fighting yourself.

Embodied Reintegration is not just a set of tools.
It’s a guided transformation process that teaches you step-by-step how to remember your true power.

How it works

When you sign up to work with me, I’ll meet you where you are. From there, we will develop a customised plan to move you through the journey of the following stages:

From head into the grounded body

People like you resist emotions and unpleasant sensations all the time. They either get overwhelmed, push away, distract, avoid, or numb out. This results in: overthinking, rumination, anxiety, burnout, second-guessing, being wound up, self-neglect, and inability to rest.

Solution: In this stage, you will learn about your body awareness and its wisdom. You will learn how to become grounded and anchored in your body, so that you can access your inner authority and calm down the overthinking and the inner chaos. From this, you can expect to develop a kinder relationship with yourself, release the bracing, slow down, breathe deeper, sleep better, and start feeling safe and supported in this world.

This understanding will forever change your relationship with your body and your sensations.

Self-command

The way you think, act, and believe regarding yourself and the world has been moulded by society. We all internalised judgments, fears, and rejections we experienced and went to war with ourselves. This results in the inner resistance, self-criticism, and a tug-of-war that seeps energy and distracts you from following your goals. This is where all the perfectionism, over-giving, self-criticism, overworking, and insecurity come from. It’s what takes away your voice and a sense of capability.

Solution: In this stage, you’ll learn how people unconsciously give away their power and how to stop this. This enlightening stage will lead you to harmonise the inner battle and reclaim the energy you’ve been wasting. From this new space, you will be able to start creating according to your needs and dreams. In this context, you will find relief of acceptance and safety simply being who you are with a newly found liberation that it brings.

This is a life-changing shift; from victimhood to being in command. From self-betrayal to self-sovereignty.

Emotional bridge to growth

High emotions and sensitivity seem like a curse to most people, especially to those who think and feel deeper.

Solution: In this stage, you’ll understand all about the purpose of feelings and emotions in how they help us lead life towards the highest growth and fulfilment. You’ll learn how to leverage them instead of being at their mercy, which will be transformative to how you feel.

This will also guide you to tap into your inner resources for a loving sense of assurance, guidance, joy, and confidence to fill yourself up.  

The power of beliefs

Limiting narratives is what keeps people stuck in their old ways. Most know that already, but few can change their beliefs as they need to. 

Solution: My process is literally taking the beliefs you want and embodying them to see the results in real life. It’s not just about speaking what you want to convince yourself. It’s about showing to yourself that what you want to believe is possible.

This transformative stage will show you how much influence and power you have to create the life you desire to have.

Reintegration with your truth

People are struggling because they are looking in the wrong direction and are focusing on the wrong problems. They spend life and energy defending, proving, avoiding, fighting and so they lose their precious resources.

Solution: Understanding the flow of life brings a lot of relief to those who judge, compare themselves and live in anxiety. You will reconnect with your deep self-acceptance and the inner guidance that’s been asleep for so long. This will help you stop that constant self-doubt, comparison, and overthinking. You’ll settle into your natural authenticity and discover that you no longer need to be anyone else than you are.

This profound and largely unknown thread of insights and practices will help you trust yourself completely and discover your inner authority and freedom from needing external validation. Your worth will grow exponentially. What’s more, you will recover wasted time and energy and be able to redirect towards what truly matters to you.

Bonuses

Embodied boundaries

On top of all the above transformative stages, you will receive guided practices to express your boundaries in a balanced, confident way. You’ll learn how to work through felt resistance to make it more natural to stand your ground. You’ll see how it builds an increased sense of confidence over time.

Beyond fear

People are naturally wired against changes. The sensitive, introverted folks very often are terrified and avoid many things that could be expansive because they fear overwhelm and discomfort. As they avoid the risks, they sacrifice their evolution, potential for joy and success. This is a guided process that teaches how to rewire your approach to any fear, resistance or challenge. I will work with you on how to use your nervous system to gradually expand and go for the things you’re currently afraid of. You can use it for anything that you fear to become confident and unstoppable.

Reconnecting your mind-body-spirit is not an overnight success. Don’t believe anyone who would promise you a quick fix or a single tool to feel connected. You’re a complex being that is so connected to the dimensions and your energetical setup requires loving, consistent showing up. The rewards and the liberation you receive in return are priceless and outweigh greatly the effort that you put into the process. Importantly, though, Embodied Reintegration is a reliable system that changes your relationship with yourself while helping you change your perception of everything else.

You’ll be equipped with principles and tools that you can use for your entire life while your dreams and desires may change. This process is a permanent transformation of the relationship with yourself that will help you in rebalancing and aligning closer and closer to who you want to be.

The summary:

  • Our work follows stages of integration but is completely tailored to your needs and your level.

  • Trauma informed.

  • Weekly ​1:1 deep dive calls held on zoom.

  • You can opt in for longer packages.

Clarity call

Every transformation starts with a first step. If you’re serious about yours, I am happy to invite you to a complimentary call where you will understand where you are on the journey and the next steps to take to create a sustainable change.

This is a no-strings-attached conversation with Gosia, so by booking it, you’re not committing to anything other than getting an audit with me and a guidance about how to move forward.

If you can’t wait to work with me this call also helps us get to know each other and decide if that’s a good idea.

Please fill out the questionnaire and I’ll reach out to schedule a time.

Testimonials

“I found Gosia’s work on Instagram. It changed my life. I started watching her stories and her story that she talked about her healing and it was so inspiring that I had to reach out. But before I did I have to be honest with you, I was unsure. I spent so much money and those little voices in my head start to creep up saying: “You know, you're just going to throw more money away. Maybe you're different. Maybe you won't ever heal. Maybe you just have to just live with it.” But I just realized you know, what? I kind of snapped out of it and said these are just thoughts. They're not true. And I took that leap of faith and I tell you it was the best step I've ever taken. It changed my life and it's been transformational! Honestly. I am doing everything and more that I thought I would be able to do in just three months. It's amazing!…

The biggest takeaway from me has probably been the emotional work that we did. I was always so afraid to go there and with her guidance we were able to do that and I've released so much energy… I never thought I was going to heal, I thought I was an exception but just give it a go. If you're having any doubts at... give it to go with Gosia. And have trust and trust in yourself that you can heal!”

Jody Gibbs

“SO much has changed. It started with increased self-awareness of my thinking habits, and awareness was key to change. It was also about taking the daily practices that meant that I had to think very hard about what was important to me and changing my life – what was in the way of taking responsibility for myself… The first part of this problem was solved through visualisation, affirmation and mindful, or positive thinking. I’d felt so trapped in the label of “Depressive” for so long that I was completely disempowered and responsibility is meaningless without empowerment. The programme showed me how to take my power back. The second part was only resolved towards the end – the responsibility of having to do the work to change my life required that I let go of old resentment and the victim mentality. This was where I realised I needed to let go, or forgive, and it has been the most powerful lesson in my life – I now believe it’s one of the reasons I came here: to learn to forgive. I am still learning more lessons around it now and it is setting me free – also forgiving myself. I also think that encouragement and inspiration I received in terms of putting aside my wounded masculine and giving space to the divine feminine in my life has been transformational.

You have been very patient with my ups and downs – thank you! Thank you, too, for not letting your ego ever get in the way of what was going on for me. There were times when, as you know, the programme triggered things for me, so thank you for helping me work through those triggers with warmth, understanding and patience.

I nearly always came away from a our call inspired and lighter. Often wiser too. I also felt comfortable being honest with you which was so important. I also never had to worry that you wouldn’t listen, or hear me out. There was always space to speak and be heard.”

Sarah N.

'Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it.' I lately did a consultation with a decluttering client and start work with her on Friday, so I realised I've achieved one of my big goals already and am happy to keep steadily working away on this. I have a picture of myself with the title “Future Fiona”, and I look at it everyday. It has goals and notes on of what I'd like to be in the future, but I'm noticing that quite a few are coming true already! Thank you, Gosia!

Fiona King

Before I signed into the program I had a lot of anxiety. I also had pain in my hand. So I reached out to Gosia to start working with her. I saw her experience and I decided to try something new [...]

Our calls were amazing. We explored different parts of my life that were creating tension and a lot of pressure in my life at a time. So, the first thing I noticed in my progress was that my anxiety decreased a lot in the first week of work. And after that, the progress was going up and up and up. Definitely there were some parts of the process where things started getting harder. And that’s when Gosia's support was amazing and super! It was key for me to keep going. 

During our time together, I was able to go through a really big breakthrough that helped me heal, emotionally and physically. I was also able to see my energy change during those three months. I started to incorporate better habits and the practices on daily basis. In my personal life, my friends, my boyfriend and my family started to see a difference in me. I felt changed and noticed a different way how I express myself, how I was managing the situations. So definitely there was a huge change in perspective. 

So now, after the course, I feel definitely more calm, I'm more confident with myself, more fearless. Definitely there's still some fears because that's part of life and that's not gonna go away. But now I can definitely manage all these difficult emotions from a different perspective and embrace them and to feel in my body and to allow them. I also think the program was perfect in the way it was put together because I was able to follow the steps. It was easy to get into it. It was easy to understand.

[…] I decided to step out of the cycle and look for help because sometimes we cannot do everything alone. So, definitely, I recommend this program for everybody who is suffering from different symptoms such as anxiety or depression.

Pamela Desigioli

“My big win was to become less overwhelmed and less disempowered by what I experienced in the past. This tied in with feeling connected to things–feeling seen and connected to people around me. The course I'm doing proving really helpful and tying in with what was going on with my mentees–so feeling very confident and empowered to deal with situations in a way I wasn't before and a potential new opportunity coming up work-wise which made me feel heard by the universe. Visualisations are really good these days. I've got to a place where I can just visualise myself as Love - this amazing pink aura and able to give and receive and attract on this wonderful vibration without having to do anything at all - handing over totally and being totally connected to the Universe/Source.”

Sarah from London

More client updates & wins…

“When I started the course, I was a tangle of emotions and fears. I learned ways to identify and process my uncomfortable feelings and feel a sense of power over my emotions which I had not felt before.

I am no longer experiencing the symptoms of depression and anxiety, and feeling lost, rather I am positive about the future and my ability to handle life’s challenges. I finally feel I am becoming in control of my life. From the initial call to our later sessions, I have felt 100% comfortable speaking to you and opening up about my feelings. I felt like I could talk to you like a big sister, but also as a professional who really knows your field. I have become so much better at expressing my feelings and feel so much more positive about my health and my healing. I will REALLY miss our weekly calls and check ins as I have learnt so much from you.”

Fiona K.

“Gosia, I couldn't have done it without your gentle and amazing guidance. So many steps were illuminated to me in the dark. Very grateful for these massive shifts & feeling incredibly positive that 2021 will be the year I fully rekindle the bond with my body.”

Irena K.

“I keep recognising situations when I'd normally repress my emotions and I interrupt these situations to allow myself feel the emotions. As simple as the practice may sound... for a person like me it was very difficult. But it gave me so much relief... I Interrupted very often situations in which I recognised that I am in a old habit / pattern. It’s very empowering”

Denise

“I've had some really empowering moments this week - I had a conversation with my mother where I was able to fairly calmly set and explain some new boundaries in relation to my sister. I felt that I was able to communicate with her on an adult not too emotional level - with transparency and really move forward with that. I took that as a reflection of some really positive changes in myself and that other positive changes might follow. I've started a new online level 3 youth mentoring qualification and this also feels empowering and as though it might expand my field of possibilities. My energy levels feel more constant.”

“I’m slowing down and keeping things simple. Not stressing about "am I doing too much or too little?" I'm just letting everything flow. Sleeping better and have much more energy! Bringing more joy in, i.e playing a card game that I used to play with my Grandma, teaching myself Ukulele again and learning to painting with watercolors. Also saying NO to someone that I would usually say yes to, because I wouldn't want to hurt there feelings.”

Jo Jo