In this post, I talk about the enmeshment, loss of self, and blending of personality amongst Highly sensitive people. This enmeshment is a hallmark of all codependency, loss of self-worth, and an important fixture of all relationships with narcissists and toxic folks.

We remember these rejections as serious traumas, neglect, or a string of betrayals. Maybe it was bullying at school or always being denied a promotion at work.

Sensitive and empathic people get a fair share of these in their lives, and I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t have a profoundly painful story to share. 

Highly Sensitive People generally have lower energy levels than their less sensitive fellows. HSPs tend to live on bursts of energy and flow on it depending on how far it gets them. 

Think of it as surfing.

Even though, I might have fooled myself and a few people, I struggled a lot with basic physical challenges like:

• Setting boundaries

• Saying NO to the things I didn’t want

• Saying YES to the things I would love to pursue

• Standing up for myself (I usually waited until it was way to late and then "door slammed them")

• Having difficult conversations, etc.

Overthinking is so exhausting... 

This habit of overthinking is something that often comes up in my conversations with highly sensitive people, INFJs, and empaths. Some people tell me that they can never fully rest, and that their brains seem to work during the night, not letting them go deeper into relaxation.

It’s absolutely painful. And unhealthy...

The most sensitive of people are wonderful escape artists. Escaping reality every day. Books, art, music...

Spirituality makes for a wonderful escape. I mean, it’s got all the ingredients...

There’s plenty of noise outside all around us and more than enough noise in people’s heads. The hardest thing is to create life from an empowered free space.

Most people go on autopilot 97% of their awake life which basically means that there is close to zero chance for making a better life for themselves. Fact.

I have witnessed an interesting interaction lately. 

A family of 3 generations on the beach was doing whatever families do on vacation. The little vivacious girl wanted to do all the fun things that usually come to your mind when you’re about 5. She was trying to go deeper into the ocean, she was making all the acrobatic tricks and so on. She wanted to play with a dog that someone walked by with.

“Fuck you” or “You’re being a dick” is a perfectly evolved way to reply even for a sensitive person. It’s my goal to become more fluent at saying this.

The self-development community paints Letting go as a magic bullet for all life problems. Gurus yell from their rooftops that you should let go in order to feel better. And we all know there is a lot of letting go these days for all of us. Changes are happening on all levels of our life.